If your parent is experiencing memory loss, it’s unlikely they have insight that they need help. It’s probable they won’t accept support and are unwilling to make changes as a result. Lack of insight or awareness is common with cognitive change.
This is where you need to shift your perspective and determine if your parent can make that decision anymore, or if this is a decision you’re going to have to make on their behalf.
You can approach the discussion initially by framing it in the future. As Lisa Mayfield, Aging Wisdom’s founder and principal, suggests in this podcast, you can start by saying “Dad, you’re 101, and it’s likely you’ll need help someday. I just want to know how I can best support you. I think it’s important that we understand what’s available so we’ll be prepared when that time comes.”
This might be the right time to bring in a Care Manager. In addition to helping identify the appropriate resources, a Care Manager understands the needs of older adults and their families and can advise on options and supports for now and for the future.
Struggling with how best to help the person in your care? You’re not alone! Schedule a get-acquainted call with us today.
Here are some resources you may find helpful:
- Seven Signs An Aging Older One Needs Help a downloadable checklist
- My Mom Refuses to Accept Help! Lack of Insight May Be the Problem from the Aging Wisdom blog
- What Is Long Term Care? a downloadable resource guide
- Should I Move Mom? a free online course at Aging Wisdom University