Month: October 2021
If your adult child has cut off contact, you are not alone. An estimated 11% of parents are estranged from their adult kids. That’s 1:8. But you wouldn’t know it to hear others talk.
There is such a stigma around the issue that estranged parents rarely talk about it with others. Instead, they tend to cover things over.
That means carrying around feelings of shame, guilt, and deep sadness, often in isolation. Sound familiar? …
Fear of losing independence and freedom are common refrains we hear from clients when the topic of moving to a retirement community is proposed.
Your parents may be resistant to the idea because they have an image of the traditional medical model nursing home in mind when you mention a supportive living community. It’s not unusual to perceive a senior living as restrictive.
The reality is quite different. A move to a community often results in greater independence. …
A Move to a Retirement Community Could Mean More Independence for Your ParentRead More »
Sarah was always an independent, brilliant, engaged woman. Her sons joyfully share stories of how growing up their home was welcoming and where everyone hung out.
She was a whiz in the kitchen, the best homework helper, perpetually punctual, and appeared to be in more than one place at once when her active children had conflicting activity schedules. These attributes continued well into her 80s with family gatherings, church activities, community engagement, and volunteer work.
Changes That are Out of Character. But something appeared to have changed not long after Sarah’s husband, Richard, passed away. While she was noticeably shaken and grieving the loss, she was frequently repeating herself, disengaged from her usual activities, and barely eating. She was unaware of the changes. This was out of character for her. …
My Mom Refuses to Accept Help! Lack of Insight May Be the ReasonRead More »
Reluctance to spend money is often one of the top barriers to getting parents the help they need. And money discussions can be uncomfortable, especially with our parents.
Our parents have worked hard. They’ve invested wisely and saved diligently. And now, when they may need it most, they refuse to spend the money they’ve saved on themselves.
This is a common dilemma for many families. A parent who needs and can benefit greatly from support in their home or by moving to a supportive living environment says “No!” to the idea. …
Parents Reluctant to Spend Money on Their Own CareRead More »