If your Thanksgiving holiday is fortunate enough to include multiple generations, here are some simple tips for keeping older loved ones engaged, comfortable, and safe during holiday celebrations:

Making Conversation

• For family members experiencing hearing or memory changes, navigating multiple conversations can be tough. Thoughtfully seat elders at the end of the table next to one or two family members who will be intentional about including them in conversations. This can be the best way to ensure they feel engaged and included.
• Shouting across a room or dinner table is rarely effective. More important: speak clearly, make eye contact, and sit close by.
• Share stories and take initiative with conversation. As memory declines, initiating conversations can be difficult. It’s okay to take the lead.
• Focus conversations on the present or share favorite memories. This is a great way to keep the conversation going.
• If a family member has low vision or is experiencing cognitive changes, have family members introduce themselves. “Hi Aunt Jane, it’s John. It’s so nice to see you.” <Communication and Dementia>

Feeling Comfortable

• Keep rooms bright, filled with light to best help those with visual impairment.
• To reduce the chance of falls, keep the house well-lit and clear pathways of tripping hazards.
• Offer a friendly escort to navigate the house. This can be welcoming and helpful for those with low vision, poor mobility, or memory challenges.
• Older family members appreciate a warm house. Encourage dressing in layers and be intentional about seating. Save the “hot seats” for those who prefer being cozy.
• Keep illness at bay for a safer holiday for everyone in the family. Here are some Healthy for the Holidays tips from the Mayo Clinic.

Taking it Easy

• Less is often more.  Families tend to over plan their time together, so schedule plenty of down time. The best memories are often made while simply catching up and taking time to be together. “Being” vs “doing” might be the best approach.
• If you’re planning on an evening gathering, encourage taking an afternoon nap before the Thanksgiving meal. Later afternoons or early evening can be a time that people with memory changes become even more confused. Having an early dinner can help ensure older family members are more engaged.
• An effective way to bridge the generations is to integrate family traditions with new family activities.

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